eharmony publishes the appeal in its own words: a dispute request to Customer Care with those two words in the body. Whether to investigate one is “entirely at the discretion of eharmony”.
One quarter ended 8,806 accounts for Spam/Scam. Every other listed reason was in single figures.
US terms make fees nonrefundable on a suspension for material breach and call in your remaining installments. UK terms return the unused portion, less costs.
A dispute request via the contact us link, with “Closure Dispute” in the body. We build it and file it in your name. We never ask for your password.
1. Save the record first. The US terms reserve the right to “remove your account information or data from our Services” once access is terminated. Take the closure notice, the subscription dates and the payment receipts today.
2. Closure, or takeover? If your account was compromised, eharmony says reopening it “would be a security hazard” and that it will not. It tells you to contact Trust & Safety with “Account Takeover: New Account” in the body instead. That is the route eharmony documents for a new account after a takeover.
3. File it in eharmony’s own words. The closure article is explicit: a membership terminated “in error” gets a “dispute request via the contact us link” with “‘Closure Dispute’ in the body of your email”. The Guidelines instead point barred members at “completing our Customer Care request form”, and say those appeals “are reviewed by an eharmony agent” who assesses whether the action should be upheld or modified, with outcomes “determined in eharmony’s discretion”. Both are live and neither mentions the other, so use the form and put the words in it. eharmony “will generally respond with our final decision within 10 business days of initiating our investigation”.
4. Answer the risk score, not the feeling. eharmony describes machine-learning models feeding rules that “assign a risk score to each user’s profile”, and names its grounds: misrepresenting your identity, soliciting funds, abuse, invading a match’s privacy. In the quarter it reports, 1,248 user reports reached moderators against 67,434 automated detections, and most automated hits only take down content - “in most cases, account termination does not occur”. On those volumes a closure is far more likely to begin with your profile crossing a threshold than with a human complaint. So write to the classification: if you moved a match off the app quickly, mentioned money, or signed in from an unfamiliar country, answer that.
5. Refused, or never answered? There is no EU referee here: the certified Article 21 dispute bodies under the Digital Services Act list Tinder, Hinge, Bumble and OkCupid, and none of them lists eharmony. What is open is an access request under GDPR Article 15, the CCPA or your state law, for the flags behind the closure. Access, never erasure, which removes no record and destroys your evidence. If it is ignored, your data protection authority or the ICO is the thing that acts on it: the Irish regulator’s published casework includes banned dating-app users reinstated after it wrote to the platform. In the UK, eharmony’s terms say that where it ends your subscription for misusing the Service it refunds the unused portion of your Premium Membership, less a reasonable amount for its costs. A chargeback ends the refund rights you were about to use. The BBB and your Attorney General build a public record; neither lifts a closure. The ladder covers each with filing instructions.
We build every route: the dispute wording, the access request, the money claim, the regulator complaint if the access request is ignored. We file every route in your name - online where there is a form, by signed post where there is not. No password. No burner. No “insider”. Just the strongest honest case, on time. We never guarantee reinstatement - the decision always belongs to the platform. Don’t start over: the terms bind you to one profile, so a second is a fresh violation on top of the case you are appealing. Check your case first.